Lift those around you…

“A creative person is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others”

Ayn Rand

I changed one word in this amazing quote, but it truly is something to take to heart.  When you achieve something (small or big), and used love, kindness, passion, desire as your motivation, then you create something genuinely pure.  This achievement is surrounded by positive energy that will continue to emit positive vibrations to those, directly and indirectly, involved throughout the universe.  It requires far less energy to lift people up, versus putting them down and keeping them down.  Humans are resilient and capable of anything the imagination can dream up, be someone who encourages, growth, love, happiness, peace, and evolution of the human species.

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via Daily Prompt: Desire

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We are surrounded by them.

Recently my wife’s grandfather and my grandmother passed away.  This is an amazing poem I found for anyone who has doubts, fear or anxiety about death and the afterlife… Their energy lives on through everything and everyone, we are all made from the same energy.

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.

Mary Elizabeth Frye

via Daily Prompt: Doubt

What happened to the silence?

In a world filled with so much noise, it is easy to become distracted and off track.  Every corner we turn there is new sounds, cars buzzing past, doors opening and closing, distant trains, airplanes, phones beeping and buzzing…etc  Rarely do we ever experience the peace of pure uninterrupted silence.  I once read an article about an individual who had to travel far out into the wilderness to actually record the pure sound of nature without any influence of distant cities or human technology etc.  Think about that, we constantly have sound cluttering up our heads, even on a subconscious level are brain is interpreting sounds regardless of our intention or if we are even paying attention.

I use to sleep with the TV on in the background all the time, I also use to have music playing 24-7.  I went through a brief period where I tried to focus on eliminating these “extra” sounds in order to have time for reflection and processing of my day, classes, work etc… I was amazed at the difference it made.  I now am able to fall asleep quicker, I have less anxiety, my thought process is more clear and overall I just feel less “cluttered” in my big ole head.  The combination of daily meditation, less TV distraction “consciously and subconsciously” and less “music” (I’m not saying I cut music out, I just don’t play it 24-7 now) has led to increased cognitive abilities, sleeping patterns and my ability to focus.  If any of the above issues seem to be plaguing you in daily life then I would recommend trying to minimize these extra sounds.

On a daily basis, we live and are surrounded by high tech gadgets that improve and complicate our lives.  It’s okay to put down that iPhone 7 or droid for 20 minutes in order to find some inner peace and quite.

Have a positive and happy day my friends! : )

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Fear & Happiness

What is happiness? How does someone achieve happiness?  And why do fear and happiness seem to coexist?  I honestly don’t know.  I have this vision in my head of “happiness”, I picture myself with my family in a nice home, spending time together, going on trips, and “living” so to speak… But how does one attain all of those  without putting in countless hours at a job (whether that be a loved job just a paycheck kind of job).  Countless hours and weekends because of the fear of being replaced, losing that job and everything you’ve achieved with it?

I struggle daily trying to find the perfect balance of family, work and play…and I know each day there are millions of people who get stuck in that same situation, that same routine… That is not my vision of happiness, but how do we break this cycle?  How to we say to our self that we want to take two weeks and go explore a new country, or make a spontaneous move to a new city, or do anything out of the ordinary?  How do we get the courage to make these huge decisions when we are constantly in fear of losing our safety net (ie. 9-5 job, Monday-Friday).  How do we let go of fear when we have a young child at home, or are barely able to cover the mortgage now?  I don’t know!?!  I don’t have an exact answer because each individual is different.  What I do know is that each day while meditating I feel like an inner part of me comes alive, I feel more motivated and my inner passion grows.  I starting finding ways to achieve goals and simultaneously become more adventurous.  The inner reflection of who I am and what I want allows me to let go of that fear.

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Happiness, fear, and attitude are all interrelated.  If I keep a clear vision of what “happiness” is to me, and I think about it positively and maintain my desire to achieve that happiness then I become able to put fear in the backseat while I pursue my happiness.  Fear is good at times, it helps you prioritize but it should never be in the front seat influencing my decisions…

It is simple….Smile

Each day we wake up with the opportunity of a fresh start… The worries of yesterday are gone and the stresses of tomorrow have not yet arrived…

I struggle at times with letting go of the past and getting anxious about the future… But by training myself to recognize those situations, I have allowed myself to reestablish that I am living right now, in the present with all of you…and that makes me happy, it makes me smile!!!  We all are capable of sharing our love and light!  A simple smile helps me let go of my unneeded worries!  A simple smile influences others to be happy and also smile!  Your smile could change someones day and you may not even know it!  Life is amazing!  Be happy!  Love people and let yourself be loved!  You are an amazing human being!  Smiles attract smiles!  Love attracts love!  Positivity attracts positivity!

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via Daily Prompt: Simple

Exposure – A Better YOU!

Exposure is often something that many of us overlook or take for granted.  Have you ever wondered why you like the foods you do?  Or why you are afraid of spiders?  Why you are the way you are?  Why is it easy for this person to accept others, but I can’t?  It is because at some point you were exposed to a stimulus and had a good/or bad experience.  Something and/or someone in your past has most likely played an influential role on every little thing you do, the food you eat, the people you gravitate towards and even the way you view yourself!

Being a new parent I feel it is my duty to expose our son to as much “stuff” as possible, and that also means I need to do it with an open mind.  I personally HATE pickles.  So if I were to let my son a pickle while I had an obvious negative/and or attitude about them, he would most likely pick up on that vibe and possibly not like them because of my attitude.  Same scenario with spiders, snakes, bugs etc… Do you think a child is more likely to enjoy those little critters if one of his parents were Steve Irwin (may he RIP), you bet your little butt they would!  So why can we not recognize this and apply this concept to everyday life?  Why can we not exude positivity into everything and everyone?

Our attitude impacts everyone and everything around you!  In order for our species to evolve and move toward a better future for EVERYONE, we need to recognize this.  We need to put this task on ourselves, its starts with each and every one of us.  We need to be conscious about our actions and the message we are sending to our youth.  If we are able to expose children to love, not just love from ourselves but love from all around, everything and everyone.  Then they will grow up and love, love themselves and others, they will be love.

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Baby steps!

Finally at thirty years old I have established enough motivation to begin my journey to inner peace!  I identified areas that I wanted to initially focus my attention (diet, meditation).  I chose diet because food is not something I have not struggled with (short term) in the past, mean if I wanted to accomplish some sort of goal or”diet” I could without issues.  The struggle would be continuing to engage in my newly established eating habits (long term).  I also believe that mental health is vital to overall health in everyone, if your mental health is compromised then most likely you will have impaired physical and emotional health.  By taking steps to improve my mental health first I could hopefully establish a more clear vision and ensure I had the proper energy and strength for my upcoming journey.

Diet!  For my diet I actually chose to do something called intermittent fasting (IF), its not “a diet” but more a way of eating or “eating pattern”.  I have done bits of research over the past few years and read a lot of very interesting articles both supporting and disputing its claims.  In the end though I decided to give it a shot and see how it actually affected me.  I have been engaging in IF for a couple months now and personally I feel like a different person, which I will explain shortly.  Prior to IF I was a firm believer in the small frequent meals throughout the day to speed up my metabolism theory, but I found myself always feeling somewhat “foggy” as I mentioned in a previous post.  This “fog” was not only from diet (haha), I had many other unhealthy habits, however once I switched to IF I found myself feeling much more clear headed, I was able to focus on other things than food and more importantly when I did eat I made more conscious decisions about WHAT I was eating.  I also found myself having more energy throughout the day and my sleeping quality also improved.  My intermittent fasting routine consists of eating between 1200-2000 give or take an hour, and then fasting a minimum of sixteen hours, so in this case I would fast from 2000-1200.  One of the things I really like about IF is that you don’t restrict calories, you maintain the same amount of calories consumed however you alter the times you consume them…  I believe I have lost close to twenty pounds, which brought me back down to my recommended weight for my height (aprox. 160-165lbs).  At times it is poses challenges because my wife does not IF, but she does support and understand what I’m doing which is a huge help.  I also definitely have days where I make exceptions and will eat breakfast and what not, but for the most part I stick to this routine and it has had a very positive effect on my daily life.

My mental health has always been some what interesting to say the least!  If you ask my wife she will definitely tell you I am moody, and I’ll admit I probably am but I think it is more related to the big jumbled mess I have going on inside my head!  At any given moment during the day I probably have thirty to forty ideas of stuff I want to do, build, see, make etc… The list goes on and on.  So I could be in the middle of trying to process all these wild ideas when I’m interrupted (her simply asking how am I?) and that leads to an impulsive and rude tone in my response (if you have mind clutter you know what i’m talking about).  Previously I compared myself to a Bisy Backson from “The Tao of Poo” (great book if you haven’t read it) and now that I was aware of this, how would I correct it and learn to slow down and appreciate life for what it is?  How could I slow my mind down and try and live in the moment, live right now, and appreciate everything around me?  Well that answer is meditation.  Meditation is a practice I had previously tried and failed, but this time I was prepared!  I discovered something called “binaural beats” you can go check them out if interested, but basically they are specific sound waves that can induce different moods or mind states so to speak.  Anyways moving on, these binaural beats were my saving grace with meditation because I am able to put in my headphones and sit down and focus on the sounds which draws my mind away from all my wandering thoughts.  So I have established a time to practice daily meditation from 0500-0530, and with each day I find myself slipping into that void in my mind more easily…  If mediation interests you and you struggle with it check out the recognitions program through synchronicity, I highly recommend this program.  They provide you with a facilitator to guide you through your spiritual growth, also a program plan, readings to help and also just support your journey! !!

Next time I will tell you about how my meditation journey is going and what I have experienced and learned thus far!!!!